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At Lilly Pilly, when communication between parents is difficult, we encourage parents to start communicating with each other through the use of a contact or communication book.<\/p>\nAt Lilly Pilly, when communication between parents is difficult, we encourage parents to start communicating with each other through the use of a contact or communication book.<\/p>\n
Typically the child\/ren carry the book in their bag between visits to each parent. It is preferable if it is a medium sized, bound book with numbered pages (pages can tend to go missing).<\/p>\n
The contact book is about the children with regards to their needs and anything else you think\u00a0could be\u00a0relevant.<\/p>\n
Keep it very simple and respectful; positive and child focused.<\/p>\n
Remember, Magistrates like to read communication books.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Emails or text messages can\u00a0soon get out of hand when emotions are high\u00a0and the ability to instantaneously fire a retaliatory rocket in return. STOP!<\/p>\n This book is\u00a0NOT<\/strong> about child support, court matters or money. It\\’s about your children, NOT<\/strong> you.<\/p>\n Lead by example!. Don\\’t\u00a0automatically expect\u00a0the communication you send will be returned with the equal amount of openness and honesty.<\/p>\n You lead with the high road. Very short and simple. No \\’war and peace\\’ ..<\/p>\n Possibly think \\”what would I like the other parent to tell me about, when\u00a0the child\\\\ren were in their care?\\”<\/p>\n Examples of what should be in the book are;<\/p>\n \\”We all had a good few days. Both the children are well\\”<\/p>\n Medical issues<\/strong>, \\”Johnny had his needles on Wednesday\\”, \\”Billy fell over at kindy on the swings and bruised his knee\\”<\/p>\n Changing times<\/strong>, \\”Would it be possible to change September 23 to the following week September 30\u00a0as Sophie has a school excursion on September 23 that she would like to attend.?\\”<\/p>\n It is NOT the children\\’s responsibility to inform each parent what they have been doing whilst in the other parents care.<\/p>\n Although you may feel this is a simple question, \\”what did you do with mum last week?\\”, it can soon become an interrogation that makes the child very uncomfortable.<\/p>\n